Thursday, December 12, 2013

Drew: 5 Months



Drew loves: his feet, naked time, sitting in his high chair, jumperoo time, facing out in the Beco baby carrier, reaching for mom and dad, and putting things in his mouth (like his feet). And of course his old favorites: paci, lovie, and mom.

Drew hates: when you touch his nose (to wipe it or use the snot sucker), and his changing table (last month he loved it...it must be a love/hate). He also almost always spits up when I put him in his car seat. Gets me every time.

Milestones: He found his feet! One day he seemed to find his knees. I helped him see that his feet were just a little bit further down his leg, and the next morning he found his feet...and never looked back. He'll be shrieking on the changing table and as soon as his feet are free he'll whip into frog pose so that he can reach his feet and instantly stop crying. I wonder at what age you stop being just completely fascinated with your limbs...? Anyways, other milestones: can "stand" for a few seconds leaning against the couch without us touching him, sits up with help in the tripod pose (arms down in front for stabilization) for a few seconds, can be unsupported in his jumperoo, enjoys alone playtime in his pack n' play, has started reaching for the book when we read to him, and puts anything he can touch into his mouth. Has tolerated being away from us for periods of time (a few hours up to 8 hours)...ok, it pains me to admit he actually has FUN without us! We left him in the church nursery one day, and with Kyle's parents another day so that we could attend Apple Cup without him in tow, and both times without us he apparently had a blast. Broke my little heart a little, but I'm also so very proud of him! The day we left him with Kyle's parents I had to text my friend Brynn repeatedly throughout the day for support. Thankful for my mom friends!

Favorite moments: if Kyle is holding Drew, Drew will see me and reach for me. I then hold Drew and point him at Kyle and then he reaches for Kyle. We pass him back and forth like this for a few minutes and he thinks it's really fun. I love watching him play with his feet. He was sick this last month (more on that below) so I got a few day's worth of baby snuggles in. Nothing warms this momma's heart like baby snuggles. Drew used to seem disinterested when we'd read him his Jesus Loves Me storybook each night, and now he looks at each page and reaches out to "help" turn the page. In the morning and at dinner he sits with us in his high chair while we eat, and it's so fun to have "family meals". We still haven't quite started solids yet, but it's coming up quick! All in all, his cuteness factor is just doubling by the day, and I'm so excited to see what he can do each day as each day seems to bring something new.

This last month was rough. We pulled out of the sleep regression just in time to get a diagnosis that Drew has laryngomalacia (which, in English, means "floppy larynx"). For weeks I thought Drew had a cold, and we finally got in to see a specialist at Children's Hospital. They did a quick scope of Drew's throat and said that laryngomalacia is something Drew will just grow out of in a few months. The floppy larynx makes it sound like he has a rattle in throat, when he really does not. I was so happy that he didn't actually have an 8-week long cold, and that there was nothing more we needed to do.

And then, Drew actually got a cold. And a stomach virus. It was just the saddest thing ever. He had it all: wet cough, runny nose, watery eyes, green poo, fever of 102, lost his voice, wouldn't eat, couldn't sleep. It was a mess. He just wanted to moan and be held. Fortunately Kyle was able to take some time off of work to help me out (this was definitely my first baby sickness rodeo!). After a week of Tylenol, snuggles, and prayers (and 4 doctor visits - hello first time parents!), he is finally getting better. His stomach virus is gone, and his cold is lingering but slowly lessening.

Somewhere in the midst of his not-a-cold-laryngomalacia and his actual cold+stomach virus, Thanksgiving happened. Kyle and I credit Drew for making a "couple" into a "family", so we had our first thanksgiving as a family this year. We spent half of the day with Kyle's family, and half with my family so that everyone could see Drew. It was a long day for him, but he got in some good practice sleeping places other than his crib. My aunt Shirley graciously offered to host the Watson Thanksgiving, as she lives right down the street from Kyle's aunt (who hosted Kyle's family Thanksgiving). It was great having the two events within walking distance of each other! I also love that Kyle's family and my family live so close together. My aunt, Kyle's aunt, and Kyle's mom live within minutes of each other. We live in the same condo complex as Kyle's brother Zeke and his wife Bekah. My dad lives about 10 minutes away (with stop lights), and my mom just a few more minutes past that. The rest of our family lives in the area too. We are very blessed!

The day after Thanksgiving, Kyle's mom watched Drew while I attended Apple Cup with Kyle. Not only did she give me her ticket to the game, but then she offered to watch Drew the whole day! Drew also got to see his cousins that day, so it was a really fun day for him. And I got to drink mimosas and eat Seattle-style hot dogs with Kyle and watch the Huskies beat the Cougars! All in all, a great day for everyone.

Lastly, in all of the holiday excitement, Kyle and I have been squeezing some training at church for the pre-marriage counseling ministry. I mentioned many months ago that serving in this ministry is big on Kyle's heart. It's a slow progression into this ministry, as the ministry itself is re-launching under new leadership at our church. Also, Kyle and I still need to go through several rounds of training in how the ministry functions from a logistical point of view, and then get some hands-on experience in actual Biblical counseling. There's no real point at which a couple has truly finished training and is ready to do pre-marriage counseling, it's more of a constant growth-in-progress ministry. All that to say, I'm really proud of Kyle as I watch him step in to leadership in this ministry. I'm also excited for our marriage, as it's true that often the ones "teaching" are the ones who learn the most (not that we are teaching anything, but the idea is still the same).

Ok - enough words...PICTURES! Drew decided to be super adorable this month, and may have finally settled the debate on who the cutest baby in the world is. I think he's finally understanding what the camera is, and what "Drew, SMILE!" means. (Or maybe I just got lucky this month!)









Drew liking his high chair!
Jumperoo Fun (dad asleep on the floor in the background!)
Just being a pal on the couch. I love this picture
because I think it just captures his personality so well.
Playing with dad!
Friendsgiving at my friend Erin's house. Erin and I have known each
other since 3rd grade, and ended up having babies just 2 months apart.
Drew and Noel's First Thanksgiving!
First Family Thanksgiving
The Hansen family together at Thanksgiving
Playing with great-grandpa Bob!
Kyle and I at the Apple Cup (without Drew!)
Hanging out with Papa Peter
Drew all tuckered out after his
day with Grandma Mary Ann and his cousins
Drew and Baby Neva meeting for the first time.
My dear friend Kaleigh (bridesmaid in my wedding, forever friend,
and wife to my friend Nick) had a baby three months
after Drew was born. Hello, arranged marriage!
Yes, that's Neva reaching out to hold Drew's hand. Babies holding
hands is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy ;-)
Drew and Kyle waking me up from a nap!
When I left Drew in the church nursery, Kyle's cousin
texted me these pictures of him having a
blast (and not missing me at all!).
Looks like we should have gotten Drew a baby swing!
He even took a nap!  
My friend Laura gifted me a bunch of felt, so I decided to
make Kyle and Drew an advent calendar. Kyle said his
mom had made one when he was little, so I made this for
Kyle as a nod to that memory he has of his childhood.
Our Christmas tree this year. Last year we cut down our own tree,
but with all of Drew's stuff we don't have room for a real tree
this year. Luckily, Kyle's parents had this tree they weren't
using anymore. Perfect fit!
Drew and I made some Christmas gifts!
The start of Drew's cold: watery eyes.
Kyle moved Drew's rocking chair out into the living room when he was sick,
so that I could watch episodes of the Pioneer Woman while holding Drew.
Dad snuggling Drew when he was sick
More sick baby snuggles made for some good, quiet reading time.
All bundled up for the cold weather!
My favorite pics from the Christmas Card "photo shoot" I did with him



Giving it Grace: Like I said, this has been a rough month. Rough in the sense that there hasn't been much time to process the series of events that happened. Just one thing to another, mainly with Drew. I like to be prepared, as a general rule, but Drew is just growing faster that I can keep up with. Sometimes I feel really ready for what's coming next; other times I find myself putting things off (like starting solids) because I just haven't had time to think about it. It kind feels like trying to run on ice! You have to find that perfect stride that involves just a little sliding around to really get going. Was that a weird analogy? See what happens when I don't have time to think clearly! :)

When we were in the thick of things last week, I was getting tired and stressed. When I get tired and stressed, I get mean. I never truly gave it that much thought until I read this blog post about what happens when mom is a bully.

The article is really long, so here are two passages that stood out to me:

"Every time I came down hard on my daughter, I justified my behavior by telling myself I was doing it to help her—help her become more responsible, capable, efficient, and prepare for the real world."

"I sat down on the edge of her bed and began saying things I’d never said to another human being—not even myself. 'I feel mad inside a lot. I often speak badly about myself in my head. I bully myself. And when I bully myself, it makes me unhappy and then I treat others badly—especially you. It is not right, and I am going to stop. I am not sure how, but I will stop. I am so very sorry,' I vowed trying not to cry."


To summarize, the mother who writes this blog was explaining that in response to her own inner critic, she was being critical of her daughter. Bullying is the term she used. I had to re-read the article several times because it just pierced my heart. I'm critical of myself. I bully myself. And worse, I'm critical of Kyle. I bully Kyle. Not always, but sometimes...it comes out. I don't bully Drew, but that doesn't mean I'm not critical of him ("why hasn't he rolled over more?"...Critical of a 5 month old - what?!). This blog post forced me to face some hard truths about my inner critic, just marching around like a big bully in my head. I sat down with Kyle and apologized to him for the times when I've been critical, and he graciously accepted my apology. It felt amazing. Grace upon grace. 

I've already caught myself being critical since the apologize - critical of both myself, and of him. But it's out in the open now, where we can talk about it. And I want to grow in this area so badly; I want to see that mean, critical bully in my head put to death. I'm thankful that God brought this to my attention before Drew gets older. Grace upon grace. I'm thankful that Kyle forgave me for being a meanie. Grace upon grace. I'm thankful that God cared enough to put this in front of me, forgive me for it, and slowly begin changing my critical heart toward myself, Kyle, Drew and others I'm sure. Grace upon grace.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Our fav books, apps, and websites for all things "baby"

I have some pregnant friends who have been asking about what books and resources we use for pregnancy and beyond. Kyle and I agreed early on that I would the research on any given baby-related topic, and he would support my findings and decisions. (He's ended up sticking his nose in a few of the books below, though!)

Here are the 12 books and 1 iPhone app that we are/will be using.


  1. The Power of a Praying Parent: I was given the Power of Praying Wife from a dear friend before Kyle and I got married. The Power of Praying Parent is formatted in the same manner, and both are fantastic for the Christian woman who struggles to remember to pray, or struggles with what to pray for (both me!). Both books have 30 chapters - which coincide perfectly with how many days there are in each month (give or take). A chapter a day, that's easy! Each chapter is 2-3 pages containing a short story, a scripted prayer, and some memory verses. I have both books (Praying Wife and Praying Parent) by Drew's rocking chair, and I read them each day when I find myself sitting with Drew before one of his many naps. Some days I have time to read the whole chapter from each book, other times I barely have enough to read the chapter title and I just go with my own prayer for that day based on the title. Either way I find myself constantly lifting my husband and son up in prayer, and the added benefit is that I get that extra one-on-one time with Jesus each day. 
  2. Pregnancy Day By Day: This book has LOTS of pictures, and it's fun to treat it like an advent calendar. Except at the end, instead of it being Christmas, you get a baby! 
  3. What to Expect When You're Expecting: a true classic. This was my go-to book during my pregnancy. I also signed up for the weekly e-mails from their website, and had the app on my phone. You could say I'm a fan. I also subscribed to the Baby Center e-mails, but always found I preferred the What to Expect e-mails. This book covers well through delivery and postpartum care, although I didn't pay a ton of attention to those chapters. As Drew's delivery approached, I massively defaulted to my doctor to walk us through everything we needed to know. As for postpartum care, I took it day-by-day and only looked up the things I needed to know. That helped me to not over-think the whole birth experience, or get overwhelmed by postpartum life.
  4. Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn: I was given this book at one of our birth classes. It is similar to the What to Expect book (except it's a little outdated), yet contains more in-depth information. I'm keeping it because it's a good reference book to keep me from Googling symptoms on the internet!
  5. BabyWise: This book explains how to implement an "eat, play, sleep" routine with your baby, with the goal of helping baby to establish good sleep habits. In my opinion, the book is not organized very well, but the general idea is there. I use this blog more than the book, at this point. We are seeing great results with this method!
  6. BabyWise II: The second book focuses more on months 5 and up, as solid foods are introduced. It has really practical suggestions for getting started on solid foods, so even if you aren't a fan of (or aren't familiar with) the general Baby Wise method, this is still a great book to use when starting solids.
  7. What to Expect the First Year: another classic. Covers all the basics, very straightforward, and easy to read. Helps me to know what's coming next! I also continue to get the age-appropriate e-mails from their website.
  8. Wonder Weeks: I didn't read the WonderWeeks book, I just downloaded the app at the advice of a friend. After weeks of using this app, I can attest that it's pretty accurate! The book is based on the premise that babies go through development leaps during specific weeks, and obviously the more you know about each leap the easier it is to help your little one develop through that particular leap. Whenever Drew seems extra fussy, sure enough he's usually in a Wonder Week.
  9. Play: I know there is no shortage of blogs on Pinterest that have pages and pages of ideas on how to play with babies. I also know I have a brain, and have the creative ability to figure out how to play with my baby. Yet, I still find myself sitting around with Drew wondering what on earth I should be doing with him during our free time. I keep this book by the couch and love that I can just grab it whenever I'm drawing a blank. It's grouped by age, and has great photos to illustrate different activities. Once I get a few pages in, my creative juices always seem to come back to me and I am able to think of other activities to do that aren't necessarily in the book.
  10. The Growing Child: this is a book I received from the family I was nannying for while I was pregnant with Drew. It's more a collection of articles, arranged by age. The articles are short, sweet, and "no frills". It's a fun change of pace from the onslaught of information contained in most other baby raising books.
  11. Baby Sign Language Basics: This is mostly just a book of signs, with some explanation of how to implement. We also have a little chart in his room above his changing table (because before I teach him any signs, I have to know them myself!). We only plan on doing the really useful ones: more, all done, please, thank you, milk...you get the idea.
  12. Gospel Powered Parenting: I had to read this book when I was going through the deacon process in the Kids Ministry at our church. I highlighted almost every page (ever read a book like that?). This book reinforces the idea that our job as Christian parents is to show our kids who Jesus is through our words and actions; that our job as parents is not to be the best mom and dad in the world, but to show our kids that we all already have a perfect father. Kinda takes the pressure off a little, which I welcome!
  13. Shepherding a Child's Heart: I confess, I haven't actually read this yet. But it's very popular among our friends and family. I know it will be a good resource, based on recommendation alone, so it automatically makes the list.
Giving it grace: Let me preface this list (can it still be called a preface when I'm saying it after you've already read the list?) with the one book you wont see pictured above, but I refer to the most: the Bible. With the endless pages of research and opinions out there, we cling tightly to the word of God on how to best raise and care for Drew. That also reminds us that no author knows more than the Author of Life, and that's good news for us! That means if I read the wrong book, read the right blog now but apply it wrongly, or don't read the right article because I wasn't glued to my Facebook feed - God is still sovereign, and His perfectness covers all our human errors. A good parenting resource is hardly half the equation; we always rely on prayer and Godly counsel when making decisions about how to raise, care for, love and instruct Drew. A steady steam of prayer and Godly counsel from family and friends has calmed my first-time parent nerves in ways I never though possible, and I rely on it daily (and I openly admit I'm not above praying for him to poo when it's been seven days with no sign of life in his diaper!).

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Drew Christmas Card Pics

If red Starbucks' cups didn't get you excited for Christmas, try a baby in a santa hat!

The following is my amateur attempt at a Christmas card photo:









Giving it grace: It took me nearly 100 shots to get 9 usable photos of a wiggly 4 month old, who doesn't understand what "smile Drew!" means. I think I said "hey Drew...DREWwwwww...Drew, Drew, Drew....ok hiiiii Drew...." until the words lost all meaning. At some point, I just had to laugh at the whole process. And maybe next year I leave the Christmas card pic to the professionals...!



Saturday, November 16, 2013

Drew: 4 months


Drew loves: when we hold him up in the air over our heads, his changing table, his new blackout shades, being naked, his lovie, the moby wrap, "standing" on mom's lap, looking in mirrors, morning time, bath time, and tickle time!

Drew is unsure about: tummy time, his bumbo chair, his high chair, and his new jumperoo.

Drew hates: strangers, saline spray in his nose, and the snot sucker bulb.

Milestones: propping himself up on his hands (arms extended) during tummy time, sitting up in a chair (with back support), rolling from tummy to back, laughing, weight bearing on his legs, naps and night time sleep (powering through the 4 month sleep regression as best we can), and reaching/grabbing at toys and grasping them before dropping them.

Favorite moments: laughing - no contest. We'll do just about anything to get him to laugh! We thought he'd have a cute little giggly laugh, but it's more of a giggly grunt. Sounds kinda like "heh...he he hehhh" (can't you hear that?). Other favorite moments: smiling, how he actually likes to sleep in his bed and will wiggle in my arms until I put him down in his crib, nursing (at first I really didn't care for nursing, but now I'm going to be sad when it's over), when he sees my face and smiles, when I catch Kyle doing cute little things to make Drew laugh, and watching Drew explore his new chairs (bumbo, high chair, jumperoo).

We're starting to think about starting solids in the next month or two, so we've begun putting Drew in his high chair in the morning so he can get used to being in it. He's so dang cute; he just sits there and looks at us like "ok...what now guys?". He's really starting to feel like a member of the family to me now. Before, despite my epic love for him, he often just felt like a little baby to take care of (because he was). He's still that little baby, but now he seems to have more a presence during the day. He feels more like my buddy, and a little less like my baby (but at 4 months, he's very much still a baby!).

We battled the 4 month sleep regression the last few weeks and I think we are turning a corner. Sleep is such a touchy subject, because it involves so many other aspects of parenting. Sleep is never about just sleep; it can be about feeding (scheduled vs. on demand), comforting (self-soothing vs. parent soothing), parental roles (who is handling baby in the middle of the night), and baby care (such as swaddle vs. no swaddle), just to name a few. I've done my lion's share of research, and taken note of my how my friends and family members who have babies that sleep did it. While I don't think there is one right way to achieve baby sleep, I do think that's it's imperative that the baby GETS sleep. To that end, if it's working for baby first, and you second, then it's a win. If it's not working for baby, but working for you...probably not a win. And if it's working for baby, but not for you...well, that's not ideal, but it's a close second.

I think I've mentioned it before, but we followed the Baby Wise approach pretty consistently. I read the book, but found this blog to be the most helpful (although nothing is as truly helpful as those who have gone before; I have spent many hours on the phone with friends and family who have used this approach!). We also did a responsible Cry It Out approach with Drew once we felt he was old enough and emotionally ready for it. Cry It Out (CIO) really gets a bad rep, mostly because I think it's often implemented incorrectly or haphazardly. I've come to realize this is a very hot topic, and I think that's because most non-CIOers think that letting a baby cry it out means the parent just ignores the baby's needs (which isn't true if CIO is done correctly). When we did CIO for Drew, we certainly were not ignoring his needs. For us, CIO was the process of teaching Drew that we are not the only ones that can help him meet his needs. Obviously, only mom or dad can help with a food or diaper need. But the need for comfort is certainly a need Drew became capable of meeting on his own. After helping him through that phase, he is now very much able to meet a moderate need for comfort himself. If he's ever in need of comfort that surpasses what he can provide to himself, he lets us know and we respond immediately and with great compassion for him - he's just a little guy, after all. Through this approach, he continues to trust us that we are there for him, while also learning to trust himself a little too. I call that a win, win (and a good night's sleep!).

He's also been battling a cold for seven weeks. SEVEN weeks, people. Time flies when your life goes in 3 hour feeding cycles, I guess. I didn't totally notice the cold at first because there was no runny anything. Just congestion in his throat. Three trips to the doctor later, I finally went into crazy-mom mode. A steady regimen of saline spray before and after naps, gripe water every 4-6 hours, Vicks baby rub on his feet before naps and bedtime, a cool mist humidifier, and an elevated crib mattress seems to have maybe done the trick. I also began to demand in my prayers that his cold bow to Jesus. And it seems like, for now, it has.

Alas, I'm done talking. This long update is mostly for my friend Keri (who is due with her own little boy this spring) and my grandma (my only true faithful blog reader)!

Drew's baby dedication (he wasn't that thrilled)
Kyle sharing our verse (1 John 3:1) for Drew in front of the
congregation at our church. Drew was blessed to have many family and
friends be there to  support our decision as parents to dedicate Drew to the
Lord, and to publicly commit to raising him in a Christian home.
Every Wednesday Drew and I join my friend Laura and her son Bronson
(and 20-30 other moms + babies) at the Edmonds Library for story time.
It's a 45 minute program, filled with rhymes, songs, books, and free play time.
Drew shows up early to have his late morning meal, and then waits
for his friends to get there :-)
Hanging out with grandpa watching the Huskies. We don't normally
let Drew watch TV, but snuggle time with grandpa is important :)
Practicing standing (and look at those chunky legs!)
Drew is a Roots of Empathy baby at Briercrest Elementary School.
We do a family visit to the school once a month to the same kindergarten
classroom; Drew is the "classroom baby". The kintergardeners learn about
empathy through studying and interacting with a baby throughout the program.
This display board is up in the classroom during the year as the kids
 make predictions about what Baby Drew will be able to do at the upcoming
visit. Baby Drew was like a celebrity at his first visit! The kids loved him,
and I overheard them telling their parents about him in the parking lot
as I was leaving the school - so sweet. I am so proud of Drew, even though he
 just sits there and looks around. Oh, mom joy..it's the littlest things, sometimes.
Visit with great-grandma Eva. We took "sunset dinner" to her,
 and she got some baby Drew snuggle time in.
Drew finally meeting his great-grandma Dee!
Checking out the fish tank with Grandma - first time seeing fishys!
It looks like he is just looking at the blocks, but I stack them up for
him and he knocks them over (am I starting a bad habit?). He can
also wedge one of the blocks between both hands and bring it to his
mouth (to chew on, of course).
Halloween: the cuteness monster!

Post-bath time towel fun
I have not edited these photos so excuse the poor lighting...
Hanging out with dad at the activity table
Drew's starting to "understand" the camera a little more...I even
got a few smiles out of him!

Found those feet again...
Baby feet!
Practicing his "W" for "Go Dawgs!"






I couldn't get this picture to rotate...sorry!


These are a series of mostly failed attempts to get a replica
 of a picture both Kyle and I have of us as babies...Drew
just did not understand what was going on. It took me three
separate photo shoots on 3 different days to finally get
"the shot" (or something close enough).




I think we nailed it with this last one! 
Kyle, Drew and Stephanie (all at 3 months): who do you think
Drew looks more like? 

Giving it grace: Drew and I joined a PEPS group, and so far I'm really liking it. I do already have a large network of mom friends, but it's really been beneficial to get together with moms who have babies specifically Drew's age. Each week we talk about different topics, and try to support each other through the trials of first time momhood. If nothing else, it's really opened my eyes to the variety of ways one can raise a baby. It's also warmed my heart to see how much time, emotion, and brain power these moms (myself included) are sacrificing for their babies, husbands, and family legacy (because babies grow into adults, who then have their own babies...and so on and so forth).

A blogger who I'm fond of recently wrote an article about stay-at-home moms. I felt like this passage summarized his general point well: "These women [moms] are doing something beautiful and complicated and challenging and terrifying and painful and joyous and essential. Whatever they are doing, they ARE doing something, and our civilization DEPENDS on them doing it well. Who else can say such a thing? What other job carries with it such consequences?" That's why it warms my heart that a bunch of mom-strangers have committed to getting together once a week to work through truly tender, important, and sensitive aspects of becoming a mom. (It also makes me not feel so badly about sitting around chatting with a bunch of moms on Tuesday morning, drinking lemonade and eating pumpkin bread, while Kyle is sweating keyboard key-sized bullets at work).

This is another evidence of God's grace in our marriage. I was talking today with Kyle about how I stay home with Drew, and thanking him for being so on board with that. I may not always be able to stay home with our kids, but that will always be a goal we are working to keep (or get back to). I asked him if it felt "unfair" that I got to stay home while he went to work, and he replied that he didn't really ever think of our situation in terms of what he is doing verses what I am doing. He said that he thinks about what's best for Drew, and he's happy and satisfied knowing that Drew is at home with me - which he considers the best thing for Drew. I believe it's by the grace of God that we're able to work out a situation where all three of us (Bug's opinion matters too!) are seemingly satisfied with the family dynamics - even though they seem "unfair" at first glance. (Although, the day that Drew pooped THREE SEPARATE TIMES in the bathtub I would've gladly traded Kyle for a day in the office...).